Lately, I have been musing on the grace and mercy of God, about which the writer of Ephesians preaches in chapter 2. Though I am not married to it, I tend to follow the lectionary when preparing weekly sermons. It keeps me from gravitating too much to the areas of the Bible with which I am comfortable, and helps me with having more intention as I preach through the year. The epistle options these days are from the letter to the Ephesians.
When I choose to preach from an epistle, such as Ephesians, I try to remember a general rule: don’t over-explain! We preachers do a lot of damage by over-describing and over-explaining a text, rather than allowing our listeners to experience it for themselves, trusting them with grasping its truth and making application. These days, we’d do better to point at the text rather than talk about it – “overhear” it rather than spoon-feed it.
Preparing to preach about the grace and mercy of God, I remembered a marvelous, true story, that my father-in-law, Dr. Paul Simpson Duke, once shared with me; a story that has made its way into his own sermons. Some of my parishioners have requested a copy of it – maybe you’d like to hear it, too.
Spilled-Tea Grace
True story. It’s told by the child of a Methodist minister.
His family was hosting a dinner one day. It was to be a formal dinner. His mother was one of those people who thought special occasions should be flawless, who plans for weeks, days and days ahead, considers every meticulous detail, wants everything just perfect, and who, if anything goes wrong, becomes frustrated to pieces.
It’s the Sunday of the Methodist Church annual revival, and the guest for dinner was the revival preacher, a very important person. His mother wanted dinner to be perfect, of course. She had beautiful rolls, relishes, a roast, flowers, crystal, all laid out so elegantly on a beautiful tablecloth.
She was the mother of four children: a boy who was 4, a girl who was 8, a boy who was 12, and a boy who was 16. Well, children that age don’t always do well at such formal occasions. They were really tired of waiting to eat, still dressed in their Sunday clothes, nervous, hungry, and fidgety. It takes a long time to lay out a spread like this. And did I mention that the children were fidgety? Finally . . . “Dinner!”
They were very excited to eat . . . but, first, the minister was asked to pray and, of course, he prayed a long prayer. When he finished the prayer, all the children reached for food at the same time!
Joanne, the 8 year old girl, reached for sugar because she was so thirsty, and in a hurry to get some tea, knocked over her glass, which was full. At almost the same time, the 4 year old knocked over his tea as he rushed to get his glass. Now there are two glasses poured out, sopping through the most elegant tablecloth. Tea is aggressive – as you know – it wants to find your lap! Well, this dinner was quickly becoming less-than-formal.
The mother – tense, embarrassed, angry, ready to hash her daughter’s hand – catches her husband’s eye. And when he had her full attention, he deliberately reached his hand over and spilled his tea. Nobody at the table had ever before seen a grown man spill his tea on purpose. The 12 year old and 16 year old thought that looked like a lot of fun, so BAM, BAM, they spilled theirs. Now there are 5 glasses of tea sopping through the tablecloth running after everyone’s lap.
The mother can’t believe it. The guest minister can’t believe it – he’s never had so much fun. He giggles and knocks his over. Now there are about 6 glasses of iced tea down and about 33 ice cubes decorating what used to be a lovely, elegant, linen, tablecloth. But more than the mess on the table there is tension in the air because the woman at the end of the table looks like she is about to explode! Her eyes are wide, her jaws are clenched, she looks at her husband and he winks at her. And she says, “Oh, what the heck!” BAM, and lays down her iced tea.
Everyone at the table burst into howling laughter. They held their sides. The mother was laughing so hard, she had to lean over on the 16 year old to keep from falling out of her chair. They laughed and laughed and then stopped laughing one by one as they noticed 8 year old Joanne, who had great big tears rolling down her face, sliding across her grin, as she looked at her father. The little girl was looking with adoration toward a loving father, who had done something very foolish . . . and very wise. He had done something not unlike the very foolish and very wise thing Jesus did.
“This mess you’ve made, I’m going to make it my mess, too. And if anybody’s going to get you for this mess, they’re going to have to get me, too.”